Affair Recovery

Increase your chances of staying together

“I will never trust you again!”

When someone cheats, the entire fabric of your relationship can unravel. Trust, connection, and intimacy are shattered.

Only 50% of all relationships that experience infidelity will survive.
Without help, you risk a lot of problems including:

Affair Recovery is possible!

As a couples therapist in Pasadena, CA, I work with the aftermath of infidelity every day. Surprisingly, 30-40% of all marriages will experience infidelity at some point. Only half will make it. But you can increase your chances!

You do not need to walk through this difficult time alone. Couples therapy working towards affair recovery can make a big difference. Putting back the pieces of your relationship is very hard and delicate work. Why not have a therapist who has helped many others show you the way?

What causes infidelity?

Many things can lead to infidelity:

Lack of Intimacy
Big Changes (new home, job, children)
History of Abuse or Neglect
Sexual Addiction
Lack of Communication
Disorganized Attachment
Substance Abuse
Family of Origin Issues

What happens when someone cheats?

When infidelity happens, each partner can experience a wide range of things:

The Betrayed Partner:

Inability to trust, and not just your partner
Disorientation
Anxiety and Depression
Rage
Substance Abuse
Suicidal Thoughts
Mood Instability, Episodes of Intense Fear, Rage and Sadness

The Unfaithful Partner:

Shame
Depression
Rage
Avoidance of the Issue
Substance Abuse
Fear and Anxiety

What increases the chances of surviving infidelity?

How you both handle the immediate aftermath of infidelity will decide if your relationship survives. There is a strong urge to fight, get even, avoid, and hide. But, with the support of affair recovery counseling, you can avoid some of these pitfalls. Together, you can turn things around in a quick and effective way.

Additionally, here is a list of actions that could save your relationship:

Be willing to be very honest and transparent
Take care of yourself. This includes prioritizing your sleep, nutrition, exercise, spiritual practice, and social life
Talk with family and friends if you both agree to do so
Be willing to forgive yourself and your partner
Understand your part in the betrayal, and how did you get here
Stay focused. Don’t avoid the pain, keep your feet in the fire

When to call it quits?

Some relationships will not survive infidelity. No matter how much time and effort you put into it, some relationships should end. If you are experiencing domestic violence or emotional abuse of any kind, it might be time to leave for good. This also goes for if your partner is a serial cheater, or if you feel scared for yourself or your kids. Knowing if this is the case can be very hard. This is where working with a caring therapist can help.

When I discovered that my husband had cheated on me, my life was over. I had never experienced that level of pain before. I didn't know what to do. Luckily we found Dr. Chris, and he helped us navigate the difficult road back to each other and ourselves. Our relationship is not what it was. It never will be. But what we have now is honest, clear and mutual. There is still pain, but we are closer than ever before.

Begin Affair Recovery Counseling in Pasadena, CA!

You deserve to have a secure, satisfying relationship with your partner. Our caring therapists can offer support in-person from our Pasadena, CA office or online. To start reconnecting with your partner, follow these simple steps:

1. Reach out

Set up a free consultation with me by clicking the button below. Let’s connect in real-time.

2. Let’s Get to Work

Work with a caring therapist to connect, understand your emotions, and regain trust and intimacy.

3. Heal Your Relationship

Have a relationship that feels supportive, satisfying, and lasts a lifetime!

Other Services Offered by California Integrative Therapy

Affair recovery isn’t the only service we offer at our California-based therapy office. Other services offered from our Pasadena, CA locations include couples therapy and marriage counseling, depression treatment, individual therapy, anxiety treatment, trauma therapy, somatic therapy, and group therapy. We also serve all of California via online therapy. For answers to any of your questions, feel free to visit our FAQ page!